2020 New Years Resolutions | Clarksville Photographer

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! A week late. Can you believe it is a new year already? Not only that, but it is also a new DECADE! Welcome 2020, we have been waiting for you to get here. It seems to me that the years our children are born have been both the best years and the hardest years for a lot of reasons. I am excited to see what 2020 has in store for us.


Last year was the first year I set out public resolutions to help keep me focused throughout the year on what is most important to me. Obviously, life happens and things don't always go according to plan, but that is why I like to have them written down and shared publicly to serve as a guide for me and to hold me accountable. If you missed my recap last week on my 2019 resolutions you can read it here and see how I did last year. I don't hold anything back.


I think this year I will continue with the 4 categories I had last year to break down my resolutions: Photography, Marriage, Motherhood, and Self. I'll include the same disclaimer as last year as well. These resolutions may not come across as life altering to you, but they are big in my world. I also save my BIG dreams for my goals of the year, which are separate specific things I dream of accomplishing instead of smaller more habit forming things. Maybe I'll do a goals post another day.


Photography:

1. Shoot More! Ok, ok, ok. I know this was on my list last year. I truly LOVE to be behind my camera (which is a good thing since I am a photographer) but I didn't do a great job for 75% of 2019 shooting more of my actual life. I want to continue to capture images of the people most important to me on a regular basis. I did a better job in the last few months of the year so I'm hoping that momentum will carry me into 2020 and I'll be able to keep it up. I love my clients, but this one isn't about them. It's about my family. But I won't turn down more clients either! 😉

2. Learn More! In 2016 and 2018 I did some amazing photography education courses. I plan on re-taking them this year to see what I may have missed on the first go around. However, I want to continue to branch out and learn more from others. Possibly even ask another photographer to be my mentor. I think I often view asking others for help as weakness or I explain away the need for continuing education. I need to continue to invest in myself and gain other influences to grow.


Marriage:

1. Date My Husband More! If you read last week's recap you know we hit 50% on our monthly date goal in 2019, but you also know we got pregnant, battled cancer, and had another baby in 2019. I'm hoping this year we can work more on the dating and do less cancer related things and pause the baby train for a bit. Thankfully, I'm married to a wonderful man who I actually LIKE in addition to loving him so its fun to date. We just have to remember to put real life on hold for a minute and continue prioritize our marriage. Goal: 1 date/month EVERY MONTH (except if he deploys).

2. Open Up More! As of last month, we have been together for 10 years! In that time I've let down my walls to my husband and let him in A LOT, but sadly, not all the way. There are still things that I worry he won't like about me or ideas I have that he might think are stupid. I want to push myself to get out of my comfort zone to let him in more and dream with him worry free. It's so silly. This man has never given me any reason to doubt his support. He's seen me at my absolute worst. He's held my hand through every step and stumble of my journey. I should be able to tell him everything. *Disclaimer: I don't hide big secrets form my husband, but sometimes I get nervous to share my best dreams with him because I worry I'll fail and then he would see me as a failure.* Again, silly!


Motherhood:

1. Balance Life with Two Littles! Last year I wanted to keep our little man engaged more since I was going to be staying home with him. Now that we have 2 kids, 2 and under, it is even more important that I keep Jamie engaged. We have been navigating this life for a couple months now and the hardest part is figuring out how to give evenly to both when their needs are so different. I worry I give Addie more of a priority since she relies on me for everything, but it is definitely important for me to remember Jamie, while more independent, still needs me and needs time just us. I want to be able to spend time with each child just one on one. I get a lot of that time with Addie since Jamie is all about his dad and I'm Addie's source of food right now. This year, I'd like to do 1 activity/month with just me and Jamie. Bonus, this will, by default, give Aaron time to spend one on one with Addie, assuming he's not at work during our activity.

2. Be A Positive Role Model! Jamie is at the age where anything we do, he repeats. We want to raise healthy, Godly, well rounded children. How are they going to know what that is if we don't demonstrate to them first. Teach them to pray, to read their Bible, to eat their veggies, to run around outside and play, to find joy in the small things, to try new things, to pick themselves up when they fall, to be confident, to think outside the box, to be a leader, to be respectful, to be a giver, and so many more things. I want those for my children, but I need to show them how starting with myself.


Self:

1. Read More! Back again from 2019. I didn't read as much as I would have liked last year and didn't make it a priority. I would say "I didn't have time" but I was listening to a podcast (Life with Amy and Jordan) and it was pointed out to me that I do have time for these things, I'm just not making them priorities. So back at it. 1 book/month.

2. Pray More/More Quiet Time/Dig Deeper in Scripture! Ok ok this got a little long winded but its important. It was on my 2019 goals (just the pray more part) and I didn't really hit my stride until the fall. I'd like to work on prioritizing my relationship with the Lord above all. I feel more even when I spend time in God's Word daily and I am constantly amazed at how relevant the Bible is to my life each and every day. God moves in all things and being more in tune with what He is doing makes my life just that much better. I also want to learn more about scripture and dig deeper into what God is telling me through His Word.


What are your 2020 resolutions, no matter how big or how small?


Julia